2024-10-08
2024-10-04
It's barely half-way through the semester and I'm already planning things that I want to do once it's over.
First of all, I want to redesign my blog and my personal website. Both are really daunting tasks. I think it would be fun to do during the winter break. I've been thinking hard about a rebrand for a while now, mostly because I think the aesthetic of this site has overstayed its welcome. I have a specific vision in mind and I've been collecting images and URLs for inspiration for a few weeks now. Been itching to act on it but I have other pressing matters, unfortunately.
Secondly, I want to re-commit to and re-evaluate my goals. I was talking to someone about how they committed to their goals once and once only. I think that's a fabulous way of looking at things. I could only dream to be so consistent. I think I have a lot of internal stuff that I want to sort out. I feel like that's the main thing that's been holding me back from my true potential, whatever that is. Or maybe I need to learn that potential is not and never has been a thing. I don't know, I think my ego is a little fragile and keeps me from doing things that I think would help me.
To me, it's a little terrifying to confront my ego. But it is too loud for me to ignore and let loose to do whatever it pleases. I think my ego is a big reason why I fear death so much. I want to amount to something and from the way I've been living my life now, that won't happen. But as long as I'm alive, the potential is there. I don't want to let go of my potential. Part of the problem is that amounting to something is a ever shifting and vague goal. The other part is that it is perfectly okay to be just a normal person. It's okay to just be me. I don't want to accept it, but I feel that I must.
2024-10-02
I'm a K-pop fan. Every time news comes out about how a K-pop idol did something terrible, other K-pop fans will inevitably start saying something along the lines of, "remember, we don't really know what K-pop idols are like." And it's true! We all know that idols put on a specific mask for the public. But, sometimes I wonder, can't you extend that logic to pretty much anyone in your life? I say "anyone" because if I said "everyone," I think that would be a bit of a stretch.
For example, there have been stories of people committing heinous crimes and those close to them are surprised. Or it's the exact opposite and those close to them see it coming from a mile away. I think it depends on the nature of the relationship. Some people wear their masks differently.
It feels cynical to assume that there is always a mask between you and other people. If you want to be technical, there are two: your own mask and theirs. I try my best to be as authentic as I can but sometimes the mask makes its inevitable appearance. Literally the only time my guard is down completely is when I'm with my parents and my brother. They know me better than anyone and at times, they know me better than myself. But in particular, when meeting new people I try to be transparent as possible.
Part of this is because I tend to see people with rose coloured glasses (K-pop idols included). When reality smacks me in the face, I'm blindsided. So there's some projection is at play: I present myself as truthfully as I can so that others know what to expect. Kinda just trying to be the epitome of "what you see is what you get." But it's really hard. It requires being vulnerable. Sometimes I think I admit my faults maybe too readily. Sometimes it might mean spilling too much, too quickly. Clearly, I haven't refined my process.
But when it comes to K-pop idols, obviously they can't take off the mask. They are selling the mask, the fantasy. Authenticity feels inherently incompatible with fame. I have been thinking about how some of the sentiment towards Chappell Roan on the Internet has turned a bit. She is unabashedly herself and speaks her truth in interviews or social media. Some people's reactions to that have been: "someone needs to get her PR trained." I don't know where I stand on that but I do sympathize with her. For some people, the mask is a hinderance. For some, a security blanket. For some, an opportunity to indulge in a lie.
2024-10-01
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